We Don’t Dream Our Lives …We Live Them

Last week I was at a function organized to raise awareness for autism and I remember
seeing this mom who is a respected member of the autism community with her son who
is on the spectrum. I remember seeing her give him verbal instructions on what he
needed to do and still having to shadow him about to ensure the instructions are carried
out properly. It made me pause and think and brought tears to my eyes. “Does this ever
end?” “would my son always need support?” ….. I was overcome with a lot of emotions in
my corner on the floor while the world around me moved on.

Indeed I have been down that rabbit hole of depression and mourned the child and the
future I was expecting to have but like I said in my earlier write-ups, the Almighty is a
just God, never make mistakes. Its been a slow process adjusting my heart and mind to
what ‘IS’ rather than holding on to what I wanted. The more I adjust to and accept
reality, the more I am able to see the good things and the joy God is holding for me in the
midst of it. No matter what dark circumstances I face, I have peace knowing that the
light of Christ’s life has overcome it. I have learn’t to keep my eyes on God and not on my

I write to encourage you out there reading this, whether you are dealing with a new
diagnosis, a new set of complications, or a new stage of life with its own challenges and
learning curves, take heart, dear friend, God will see you through these unwelcome
changes; may you find hope in God’s unchanging character. Remember to build a
functional support system and don’t be afraid to lean on other parents who are further
down the road for strength.

Indicators of autism usually appear by age 2 or 3 and research shows that early
intervention leads to positive outcomes later in life for people with autism. Autism or
Autism Spectrum Disorder is NOT a DISEASE; it refers to a broad range of conditions
characterised by challenges with social skills, repetitive behaviours, speech and
non-verbal communication. There are many subtypes of Autism most influenced by a
combination of genetic and environmental factors and because autism is a spectrum
disorder, each person with autism has a distinct set of strength and challenges. Some
people with autism may require significant support in their daily lives, while others may
need less support and in some cases live entirely independently

At the end of the day, we don’t dream our lives…….WE LIVE THEM!

So stay informed, educate yourself, spread love and above all DON’T GIVE UP HOPE.
#myASDstory #autismawareness #autismacceptance #loveneedsnoword
#myrainbowchild #autism
written by Solape Azazi


By Solape Azazi

Solape Azazi is the Executive Director & Founder of Cradle Lounge Special Needs Initiative, an organization dedicated to increasing awareness, acceptance and inclusive learning. She is a wife and mother of 2 boys, one of who was diagnosed with ASD at the age of 3.

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